I had never noticed this before, but there are people who seldom return the favor when asked "how's things?".
I'm fairly certain that it's not done intentionally, but it does come off as a little selfish. Shit happens, I get that. Several years ago my life was one big roller coaster ride of drama. Some of it was dealt to me and some of it was self induced. Either way, it was all consuming.
One day an acquaintance turned on me. She called me out and told me that I was self absorbed, it was all about me me me and my problems. I never asked how she was doing or what was going on in her life.
It stung. She was right. Since that day, I am careful to ask people how they are. I do my best to remember something they had mentioned in a previous conversation and follow up with them on that the next time we speak.
When someone asks you how you are, it's just bad form to spew out all things negative. It's tiring. If you must run down a list of everything that is going wrong in your life, finish up on a pleasant note and take the focus off of yourself. Take an interest in what the person in front of you has to say. It could make a difference between keeping a friend or being kept at arm's length.
Being a Christian does not call us to check our brains at the door. That statement was music to my ears. I've been struggling a little bit lately in my walk with Christ. Actually, not so much with Jesus, but with some of the details in scripture.
Personally, I think the believer should be in a constant state of asking "why" or "how". I cannot stomach the cookie cutter version of Christianity where every day is filled with sunshine and butterflies. That's not real, at least not in this world.
Nor do I believe that we should be the walking wounded to the rest of the world. There are times when we just have to take it on the chin, keep moving on and trust that the Lord is with us through thick and thin.
Relationships have phases. It typically begins with curiosity, then attraction, then head over heels besotted gushy displays of love, to a cooling down, to hopefully a strong foundation for a partnership for the remainder of one's days.
The same hold true, in my humble opinion, for a person's walk in faith. It might start with "I love everything about this and everyone in it" to "if you hug me ONE more time...!" There are people you will like more than others, some you will merely tolerate and some who you will just have absolutely nothing in common with. I don't think that's a bad thing.
I realize I'm all over the place with this post. I guess what I'm trying to say is to respect that not everyone operates or thinks the same way. Just because we call ourselves a family of families does not mean we are all carbon copies of one another. The bottom line is that we share our belief in our Savior and the rest should not preoccupy us.
Hi! I'm Chris, an empty nester living in Montreal and making the most of this stage in my life. I love cooking for friends and family, DIY projects, decorating and writing.