I've been struggling this week with a topic to write about. Thank goodness for Facebook. It always provides material that ranges from the absurd to thought provoking.
I was standing on the platform at the subway station waiting for the train to come when my mind wandered to a post a friend of mine with three young sons wrote. Eureka! There's my inspiration.
She wrote a comment about how she is not looking forward to the day when her little ones don't necessarily want that extra long hug or kiss or cuddle. Although my little one is now a grown man with a full beard, I still remember the bittersweet moment he started pushing me away like it was yesterday.
When it happens it's easy to let the sting of rejection get you down. However, I would invite mommies everywhere to look at it from a different angle. Instead of feeling sad, rejoice. It means that you have done a great job and because of that, he now has the self assurance to starting to take the world on all by himself.
Without warning, you will fall from grace and lose your supermom status and will become the bane of his existence. You will not be allowed to address him in public, will be asked to drop him off a block or so from his destination and you will no longer know anything. In fact, you will become the most embarrassing person on two legs. He will probably be amazed that you are able to dress yourself in the morning without help.
When the chips are down though, he will turn to you for comfort and advice. Regardless of how old either of you are.
So, love him unconditionally, practice patience and tough love. Let him know that no matter what happens the door to your heart will always be open for him. You should be ok and well on your way to enjoying one of the most fulfilling relationships of your life.
Trust me on this one.
Hi! I'm Chris, an empty nester living in Montreal and making the most of this stage in my life. I love cooking for friends and family, DIY projects, decorating and writing.